I guess this advice would go to any or most relationship BUT

By this time Scanner should be clear that they are Multi-potentialite, Project Oriented rather Career Oriented People.  Since Career oriented and 9 to 5 job has no problems whatsoever and sensibility would say " DO NOT DISTURB" at work and that would be respected but these 24/7 Workers or 5 to 9 workers are different.

Who are you ? :  Really what is your relationship to Scanner. Are you their Flatmate, Spouse , Partner, Living Together, Sibling, Child,Relative, Social Media Friend, Acquaintance, etc.

Why would it be any different than relationship where we would communicate with other people depending our relationship?

The reason it would be different as there are no clear guidelines and Scanner also do not intentionally know what is expected number of times to communicate.

Some people are happy seeing each other once in 6 months, some are just happy to hear from each other everyday on Social Media, leaving notes at home ,call or text if possible.

Sometimes Scanner are willing to give attention as much as needed. In some cases , even when it affects their work. As flexibility is one of the reason they become Scanner they kind of unknowingly let people walk all over other people by constantly emailing, contacting via phone and be available because friends and family comes FIRST. However when same has been where some think it is ok to take it for granted or not value and think they aren't doing anything useful.

Eventually when Scanner has got a schedule perhaps it might be difficult to change that.   That comes to next point

What Phase of Life they are in ?:    There can be Scanners who has given lot of time and effort and yet it has been rather disappointing experience for some other reasons ( nothing is ever perfect for some) and it has resulted in resentment by either other party hasn't kept up or not appreciated the amount of attention.  Flexible or Not -so -flexible  Attitude on Communication can be for different people.

Sometimes Scanner there is frustration of friends and families who want more to be in contact than they are willing to. Despite it seems Scanners aren't really doing anything as progress is slow however if you look closely they are spinning several plates and when most are busy doing 2 things they are doing 20 things.

Working on Same Project : If  you are perhaps in a Professional setting ofcourse they would be always dedicating time as needed by Project however in Personal Relationship this can get tricky.
Working together with someone close has pros and cons. Relationship and Communication with other people change as priorities change and as relationship grow.

No Monopolizing Time :  Firstly is it really realistic for Scanner to communicate with another Scanner or just anybody everyday,every week, every month or every year ?  Look at your own commitments too, Would it be nice to communicate everyday or something OR you would like to do but wouldn't be able to do ? Thank for their time always.

Focus is F Word : FOCUS is a swear word. When Scanner goal is to be better at being Spinning lots of plates and being really good at it. Focus on doing one thing is basically opposite and in their head their whole world collapses.  Somehow you have just not accepted their whole beautiful world by asking them to narrow down.

Update on Last Project : Sometimes it is great in order to feel close or just to know we ask them specific of whatever last they were doing. Sometimes they have moved on and sometimes working with other piece of work. Are you being invited to problem solve or share enthusiasm? Help problem solve but don't be too strict about it. As we all have our own fears and issues to work with or even vision on how to solve same problem.  If not, then asking about a problem and giving input or negative input can actually harm Scanner. If you are asking for neither best would be to wait until they want to talk about their work.

So say for an instance, somebody enjoys creating flower pressed earrings or men flower neckties.
If you are person who likes to buy branded products and despite they want to be independent designer/retailer they are never going to make it into a full fledged Brand. They do not have same vision. It could be other way too like said Scanner are interested in Branded thing and you as a person are anti - Brand as it seems phony.

Are you non-judgemental and open ?: It isn't enough to be one but are you able to gain trust and confidence for somebody to open up.  That involves not to push for answers but stay in peace of uncertainty and enjoy the moment of chaos /uncertainty. Stop pressing for answers and Start Listening.

Are you control freak ? :  It only matters whether one needs to take decisions which would affect their life. There are times when it is imperative to have answers like what time and where we are going ? They become imperative after certain time. However the amount one needs to know when can differ. Sometimes it is good that somebody want to know 6 months in advance exact details on where some event is however it isn't same time frame for others who would be happy to drop everything next day as they value relationship so much. Some people would abhor having to already decide what is going to happen 6 months and plan so ahead in time!

Not all activity done by Scanner has an end result of creating lot of money, fame or even to problem solve it. Sometimes it is just understanding the problem to make sense in other part of their life.  

   

Not want to talk about work : Some days Scanner just doesn't want to talk or share as question arises where do they start from and after how many hours would they stop, maybe there are other parts of life. Sometimes it is just best to "BE". Maybe Scanner / Entrepreneur realizes limitation of certain person and thus might not open up for advice. 

Want Advice /  Not want advice :  It would be wrong for people to think Scanner don't like advice. It is just that there is just so much information and so much advice on finger tips.Scanner needs advice and if they did they would talk to people whom they feel easy to talk to or who are well qualified to do so. Not one person is capable to provide all information and it would be crazy to think one person has all answer. Sometimes Scanner just enjoy researching and looking for advice on the internet as it is impartial, unbiased and where they do not have to argue about what they agree and not agree about something or justify their whole belief system.

Encourage and do not discourage :  I feel more and more people are open to this new lifestyle business or money makers as it is not new. It used to happen previously where Baker was in his shop with his family downstairs where his children are running around with his wife. However this is little new in terms of same Baker has another 10 things going on.  One needs to keep up with Scanner and their ideas. They aren't going to fit in your idea of let me know his/her occupation and understand them there and connect with them.Scanner asks you to look beyond a potential of putting them in a box or employ them into something.

Maybe Scanners are just looking for that mental connection where anything can be spoken and discussed under the sun. Let them lead you to their beautiful mind and beautiful world. Only your attitude would show whether they would like to unravel their world to you or not. Sometimes you would have better ideas per say, but whether it is best idea for them or not is only Scanner would be able to decide.

Respect Their Choices and Make Some for yourself : This is where it gets really interesting!  Sometimes other people's choices can really affect our life and sometimes they take decision for you. It does hurt when they affect.

True Question: How much THEIR Choices are affecting YOUR Choices? AND Should it ?
If it is then it is time for you to make your own choices so that their choices doesn't affect you.

People do not want always best solution to a problem. They want solution which works for them.

A person can be  accustomed to write with Pen and Paper, Typewriter, Computer or Tablet.
and there can be always requirement which changes and which leads to change. Where today Government Forms have to be filled online otherwise they won't be taken and that has lead to many are forced to adapt.

Just because it is NEW and IMPROVED OR Your way is better it doesn't mean they want to change it. It doesn't have to be for everybody. Sometimes some people need more prodding. Sometimes not. It boils down to different people take different paths and are constantly making choices based on what they think is right for them at that given time. Sometimes problem are created in their life because of their lifestyle and choices. Thus only they can change it when they think it is necessary.

We create PROBLEMS in our own life by choices we make.
So that we can find SOLUTIONS and in all that we find ourselves
and EXPRESS Our True self which is even hidden from our Current Self.

It is one's little quirks and flaws make them who they are. Scanners or Humans in general we are not logical and if we were we would have PERFECT World driven by Logic, Rules and with no place for error and most importantly no emotions.

Do not hang on to their choices for you to make your choices.

Too many times we are advised by society to follow our Dream, Dare to Dream, Dream Big and even fight for your Dreams. Having Dreams is the most wonderful thing, as someone who was repressed to have any until I was in my mid 20s. Maybe it was Quarter Life Crisis. It definitely was!

I had been so busy looking at the bright and sunny side of Dream that I had really not thought about the cost of it, as it is so easy to be idealistic and "wing it" So last 2 years, I took good time to calculate the cost of it all.

It came up with all those things to go from Point A to Point B. How do you go?
You build a bridge. You wonder how much it costs to make a bridge. How many man-hours? How much time?  How much money?

BUT that is just materialistic cost. The real costs are not even tangible.


Perhaps a few bumps don't matter during the journey because perhaps Destination and Journey both are important and integral parts of my life.

I thought they were just trade-offs.
When we sacrifice one thing to obtain another, that's called a trade-off.  For example, only have enough cash to buy a bike or a snowboard, but not both?  That's a trade-off.  Trying to decide whether to take the Christmas off to spend with your family, or to go to work and make extra overtime?  That's a trade-off.


I did not realise I was making some huge sacrifices.

The word " Sacrifice" comes, and I go pfft. What's that?
I do sacrifice, but I never really think of anything as a sacrifice. I have never really thought about it that way until very recently, it was brought to my attention. This time I paid attention.  REAL ATTENTION!

Real Cost of having and following a Dream! 

You need Sweat, Blood and Tears to fulfil your dreams. Challenges are tremendous with mental, emotional, physical and financial. Some of the ones that really caught me off guard are :

Difficulty believing in your own Dream: Who me? yes you? One of the hardest things is to believe in your own dream. Without getting too religious, Evan Almighty, aka Noah was asked to built ark so that he could save animals and the world, I suppose. He ignored it in the beginning, and he didn't even want to build an ark. He didn't believe it himself; he was happy doing his job.

Embarrassment of just not being your Previous Self: You are ca hanged person, you are the person who has been really hit by lightening bolt, a Dream or Purpose and people around you still expect the same of you. It is like you have bitten by this madness which nobody understands or even sees, but it is in your heart and head.

Odd one in the room: We somehow feel closer to people who are like us, who are similar to us, what class they are, and how much money they make. They make us comfortable and secure. I wonder whether I was born to make people secure or to expand them. I take the latter one any day.

We as human beings need to pull each other

So we can be stars rather than perfect circles.

Embarrassment of Being Laughed at for your own beliefs: Every choice, every decision and everything you do in your life suddenly seems to be guided by your dream. It sometimes even becomes your identity. Being laughed at for your own beliefs is actually very sad. To be not approved is a worse thing, as somehow we are wired to seek others' approval. It is once again very primal to get approval, so whatever we stand for is suddenly when is disapproved by our group seems to put us in a very vulnerable position.


Ability not to take along your old friends and family on the journey: First thing I ask is, just because I as a person have changed, can I realistically expect everybody around me to change? I would think that is selfish to put that pressure on somebody to be like me.  It is more or less father saying to his son since I was a Doctor or Engineer you need to do the same. Not all are designed or capable of doing the same. However, sometimes this kindness can be seen as not expecting others to also change, as being selfish and only thinking of myself.

Being treated differently, sometimes even unfairly :  Who me ? Sacrifice. I wouldn't think I was capable of sacrificing, as I had been called selfish and mean. In some way, it is, but I also know that if I weren't responsible for my life and the choices that I made, these are the same people who aren't going to come and fix my life. OR had remotely any plans to make it better. Sometimes, to make their small-minded world, which doesn't collapse or change, I had to fit in.

Getting comfortable in New You: Truth is in many occasions, I try my best to "fit in"; however voice of "New ME " was too powerful to ignore. It is suffocating, and losing your own voice is the worst thing that can ever happen.

Facing your own fears + everyone else's: It is bad enough to have that nagging voice which challenges and says how can you? and having all these fears, but some people really know how to make even getting out of the door difficult. For me it isn't  #FOMO   Fear of Missing Out but a genuine need to live authentically.


Alienate people, either those who make us remember our Previous Self, who resist our New version or are just downright negative:  Not everyone who can remind our past self has malice; some are extremely helpful to keep us grounded positively, and some not so much. This one is most difficult when you are going through a massive change, and there are obstacles created by people who hold on to or think that we are bound to them, or we are expected to behave in a certain way. You owe it to them, and the truth is, no one does. Sometimes these are really the people who are very close ones, and for your own sanity, one needs to alienate those people. They say sometimes people do not understand, and one should explain. The problem arises when people aren't listening despite explained.

Frustration with Communication: Words should be enough, and sometimes they aren't enough. You make choices, and there is absolutely no logical explanation for it. Sometimes you just want people to be able to see what's in our head so that what we feel so strongly doesn't have to loose their value by using words.

Being Practical can seem Negative: Many people are not looking for pragmatic advice, as Dreamers already know what they shouldn't do or why something can't be done. There are millions of reason,s and some people out of care and concern give practical and sometimes not so positive advice. However, it is difficult not to take it negatively.


Bad Authority Figures: Parents who can't answer their kids' questions are better off to just saying "I don't know" rather than pretending having full grasp of something.People who think they know and pretend to know when they really don't create more confusion than clarity.

Feel Terrible, Guilty or Shame for just being ourselves: It is a terrible feeling when you aren't accepted just the way you are. Some people would make sure you feel terrible, guilty and ashamed for your choices.

Managing the insecurity of other people:  When people who do not know how to support, stupidly try to do everything you are planning to do or have done so that they feel worthy of your love and admiration, which is in some case completely unnecessary and sometimes necessary. The real reason one should do anything was that they wanted to because they were excited.

 Many times we see other people really successful, happy and fulfilled, and realise we aren't doing what we are supposed to. The biggest truth all is that it is not about YOU. It is about a person who has succeeded after all the obstacles they had. It is about their achievement, not a comparison contest.

Not being able to discern and lumping everyone as the same: Finding your own tribe, fan and supporters takes time, and really, one has to be patient doing that; however, it is also important that one doesn't go through a period where a person thinks everyone is being negative. When you hear too much negativity, even positive comments sound negative. You question whether they are genuine or heartfelt.

So when everybody is just telling each other how fantastic they are, sometimes some people take it especially negatively, and they think they really need to keep up or have to be like the next person. True friendships are with people who know that they can be simple and their complex friends would still appreciate you. So it is easy when people have seen lots of competition and show off to think everybody is trying to put them down.

These are the same people who enjoy, yes, they ENJOY in making other people feel shit. Or they have met people like that, and they thus think that everybody is like that.

Dealing with jealousy and envy: In some doses, competition might be healthy. Sometimes jealousy and envy among not strangers but the most dear and closed ones left me confused. For me definition of a closed one was people who are there in your highs and lows. It is interesting when people in high do not want to be in lows, and people in lows sometimes don't want to see highs. It goes both ways. Even though people think that people are only interested in Highs and, that's not true.

Loneliness: Perhaps this is the saddest one. I was once told it is lonely in the top. I don't believe it is all the time, but as much as one is close to God or their higher self, there are times one purposely has to spend a lot of time alone, or a habit gets created that you start spending time in isolation just to clear out all the noise.

Giving up: Failure and disappointments are part of life. However, some dreams, despite when you have fought for it, you realise that they are never going to come true, or you no longer have any further energy to give. You just realise that the dream and reality gap is so big that it would never fill up, and you would be able to make it happen.

Coping with Transition time: Between finding your true calling or being hit by a lightning bolt or whatever you call it when you have a dream to find people who would surely appreciate your true nature and ideas. Finding those kind people is once again hit and miss.

Having faith even when shit hits the fan: Meeting people who would support would only come after you have shown immense faith in your dreams. It is a sort of test of your faith. Unfortunately, here it isn't see it and believe it, but

Believe it, and you would surely see it.